Self Care is a Personal Experience

My intimate connection with self care began along side my motherhood journey, in the depth of my soul, in the darkness. Before babies I was a lavish Leo who knew how to pamper myself and had a healthy personal growth obsession. I took ample time for rest, relaxation and revival, but there was a missing piece that didn’t exist for me yet.

Then my motherhood journey began and so did the most intense, personally challenging chapter I have experienced thus far. All the natural joys of mothering bloomed, but inside another process was taking place too.

The most difficult part of birth is the first year afterwards. It is the year of travail - when the soul of the woman must birth the mother inside her. The emotional labor pains of becoming a mother are far greater than the physical pangs of birth; these are the growing surges of you heart as it pushes out selfishness and fear and makes room for sacrifice and love. It is a private and silent birth of the soul, but it is no less holy than the event of childbirth, perhaps it is even more sacred.
— Joy Kusek

How much of a struggle I had with birthing the mother within and her place in this world was challenging, profound and the ultimate catalyst of growth. I became someone anew, and slowly was getting acquainted with her and discovering how to care for her.

My self care looks different now, and is fluidly shifting. It feels much more simple, but also more intentional and conscious, integrating little shifts into my everyday life. What was once all-day nature hikes, drinks by the pool, gym time or shopping, now looks like standing in an extra hot shower letting it rinse away my thoughts, tenderness in my skin care routine, soul food that is so good that I have to close my eyes to enjoy the bite, 5 minutes of sun, deep breaths, meditation and empowering podcasts. The difference is my energy with it.

I imagine it will continue to shift as my time and priorities do. But I see it’s importance for the woman I have become. I also think it should be unique to each individual and wouldn’t look the same for everyone. I honor the woman in you and hope you are taking the time to care for her.

What does your self care look like?




Peace and Love,

Melissa Parker